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Throughout your life, you can experience trauma that can change your life. Often, in not the best way. There are pain and suffering associated with it, and it’s common to not function in the way you used to. You may no longer feel yourself, and when you do, it comes and goes in small doses. The real power for combating trauma is through healing. Although it can be a long process, your future can benefit from the healing that can be done with conscious work and forgiveness.
Unless confronted altogether, it can be challenging to heal from past experiences that tend to leave you triggered and risky. Studies show that cognitive responses related to trauma include memory difficulties, poor judgment, and inability to make choices. When a person is able to heal, it allows them to gain back the control they lost in their life and move forward towards their purpose and passions that have been waiting for them to discover.
Improved Response Systems
When you are grounded in your healing and begin to live your life unshrouded by the trauma you once had, you respond better to unforeseen outcomes. In the past, when you were blindsided from events or experiences that were psychologically unsafe, you responded with a reflex. With the completion of trauma, you have new procedures that can be used in these situations to help you process what is happening and respond accordingly to your needs.
Reclaim Personal Power
The most important aspect of healing from trauma is accepting peace and taking back your lost personal power. A shift occurs that allows you to focus less on your past and more on the present. The daily routines that once overwhelmed, you become more seamless, and you have a better understanding of who you are as a person again. Healing from trauma can be the gateway to a life of balance, peace, and awareness that would otherwise be gone or rejected from your mind.
Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma, and Recovery (New York: Basic Books, 1997), 35.
You might be thinking: what is a growth mindset, and how it can help you become a better person?
According to Dr. Carol S. Dweck, a Standford University psychologist who studied human motivation and the power mindset, it is believed that the intellect evolves, contrary to a fixed philosophy that strongly suggests that the mind and an individual is static. She explains in her book, Mindset: The News Psychology of Success:
“The growth mindset is based on the belief that your qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts. people may vary in every which way in their original talents and aptitudes, interests, or outlooks, everyone can change and grow through application and experience.”
With a growth mindset, you’re welcoming change in your life. You’re accepting the power of growth. It does not matter if you are in a good or bad disposition; you know you can be better. The growth mindset is all about.
What we’ve listed down things you can start to hone your growth mindset:
- Believe that you are continually changing
The first thing you need to do is to accept change and the beauty of impermanence. Believe that you are capable of change, and not all items are fixed. If you strongly affirm this, you’ll believe that you are working in progress. With hard work and an open mind, you can continuously become a better person.
- Build your self-awareness
Self-awareness is a healthy state of fully knowing yourself—both the good and the bad. It means you know your values, patterns, strengths, weaknesses, and how others perceive you. Being self-aware helps you navigate life with ease, with a skill to accept feedback and different views. It gives you a perspective on what to focus on and become better.
- Be a curious learner
Never stop loving life like a child. See the world full of possibilities where you can learn and grow. Be curious about things you do not know. Look at those things as an opportunity to rise from the person that you are. Develop new skills and be amazed to find new things that you might love. And keep an open mind. Learn from people and ask questions. You can learn from their journey. And from that, teach yourself. As a child, see life and everyone with curious eyes.
- See failure as an opportunity
Don’t be scared of failure. Befriend it and see it as an opportunity to learn. Remember that your faults don’t define you as a person, but rather how you respond to it. If you dwell on it, you’re closing the door for change and becoming a better person. But if you learn to acknowledge it and respond to it with grace and acceptance, you’re practicing a growth mindset.
- Value the process
Put a value on your journey. Be present on the learning process and don’ have any expectations for yourself. Simply continue to learn and don’t put too much focus on the end result. Enjoying the learning process will give bring the satisfaction and achievement that you want.
Zero-to-A-plus-Terms | Cynthia Micallef.
The first step to get a hold of your life and be successful is to Believe in yourself. Believing in yourself opens up endless possibilities and doors for you. Sometimes it is indeed a difficult task to do; however, with the correct mind conditioning, you can achieve that. One might think that believing in one’s self is an easy task. Honestly, it is not by all means. In society, we have been conditioned since the day we were born to doubt our lives and doubt ourselves. We are conditioned to seek outer validation for what we do and even feel. That is why when you tell someone “believe in yourself,” the most common reply is “How?!”. However, we can recondition our brains to get rid of our fears, self-doubt. Doing so helps us build our self-esteem, confidence and become better people.
There are some steps that you can follow to recondition your brain to start “believing in yourself.” Here we are going to talk about these steps
Believe That It Is Possible To Be Done
The first step and probably the most important step is that you believe it is possible. If you want to believe in yourself, you first need to believe that the thing you want to do or achieve is possible. In the past, scientists and psychologists believe that humans, in general, respond to information that flows into the brain from the outside world. That belief was shattered when modern science proved that humans respond to what the brain expects to happen next based on previous experience. That is the reason that what everyone believes to be happening differs from one person to another. Through the power of inception, you can deliver everything you want via that powerful instrument, which is the mind. The same goes for negative thoughts too. That is why the most important thing is to always hold positive thoughts and expectations. That way, you discipline your mind to think positively, which will help you to eventually believe in yourself.
Visualize Your Future Life
Visualization is a great practice to add to your daily routine. It is very beneficial for reaching your goals. Be visualizing what you want to achieve or even feel; you will realize that you get closer to really achieve that. By visualization the state of your future life, you get closer and closer to live in that life. One useful way to do visualization is to use what is called a vision board, which is a graphic representation of what you want in life. Use colors and make it as colorful as possible and look at it every day. When you close your eyes, visualize that board, make the last image you see before sleeping on that board. By doing that, you are conditioning your mind to believe in yourself and your goals. One day you would wake up and realize that you are just a step away from achieving your goals, and the moment you achieve them will be the most amazing moment of your life.
Act As If You Have Already Achieved Your Goals
According to the writer Rhonda Byrne, the best thing you can do to get to your goals is to act as if you are already there. According to her, that is called the “law of attraction.” It is a concept based on the idea that the universe sends you the outcomes your mind already visualize and expects; by acting “as if,” you become a person who is capable of creating the exact type of success in life that you want. Now, scientifically speaking, acting as if you have already reached your goals triggers your subconscious mind to find creative and unusual ways to achieve these goals. Your mind will make you start noticing opportunities that you normally would not notice before and gives you the confidence to go after them, which will make your dreams come true.
Take Positive Action Towards The Future Goal You Set
These steps sound cliché, but it is true as it gets. No matter what you do, if you do not start taking positive action towards your goals, they will never become true. It is that simple. You can set all the goals you want, make a vision board, start visualization, and start working mentally on yourself to discover that nothing is changing. The reason behind that is that you actually did not take any physical step towards achieving any goals. Remember that the world does not change mentally. Not acting upon your goals is the number one reason why people do not achieve the goals they set for themselves. But what makes us do that? If we already know our goals and we want them, why do we not act to achieve them? The simple answer is fear. Fear of failure constrains us from acting upon our dreams and goals. The best thing you can do to overcome that is to believe that while fear is a normal thing to feel, it does not define who you are. Remind yourself of the outcomes that you will gain once you achieve those goals. Tell yourself that it will be worth it in the end.
Finally, we would like to say that when you believe in yourself and believe success is possible for you, life will start to make a lot of sense. It will unfold magically in front of you when you start changing your mindset to a more positive one. The universe will guide and support you. Your subconscious will start reconditioning your conscious mind to take action and seek new opportunities. It is your time to shine.